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Are We Dating The Same Guy? – A Community-Powered Safety Net for Women

by Spill the Tea, Inc.

4.8
IOSLifestyle
If you're navigating the often murky waters of modern dating, this app offers a real-time support network where women share experiences and vet potential partners. Designed to help users avoid harmful situations, it brings back that old-school sense of community trust in a digital format. Perfect for anyone who wants an extra layer of reassurance before swiping right or saying yes to a date.

My Full Experience

I’ve been using Are We Dating The Same Guy? for a few months now, and it’s honestly one of those tools I wish had existed years ago. The concept is simple but incredibly effective: women post about men they’ve dated or matched with, and others in the community can confirm patterns, share green flags, or warn about red ones. It’s not about bashing anyone—it’s about collective safety. One of the best features is how location-based it is. You can search within your city or even a specific dating app, which makes it super relevant. I once matched with someone who seemed great on paper, but a quick search showed two other women had similar uncomfortable experiences with him suddenly ghosting after a few dates. It saved me time and emotional energy. The app does rely heavily on user participation, so in smaller towns, content can be sparse. But in metro areas, it’s incredibly active. I also appreciate that the moderators are strict about keeping things respectful and fact-based—no baseless accusations, just shared experiences. It’s free, easy to use, and genuinely feels like having a group of savvy friends looking out for you.

Key Features

  • Location-based posts and search for relevant warnings
  • Anonymous sharing to protect users' privacy
  • Community moderation to ensure respectful dialogue

Why Users Love It

Real-time crowd-sourced safety info
Builds trust through shared experiences

Perfect for: Women who date men and want to make informed, safer choices in their dating lives.

User Reviews

GoTigersGoMem
Jun 24, 2025

This app keeps women safe and it very necessary in today’s dating world SAFE FOR WOMEN This app keeps women safe and it very necessary in today’s dating world

Janicerae521
Jul 15, 2025

Helpful for when I was single and a supportive group of women Great tool Helpful for when I was single and a supportive group of women

MzJenny2022
Jul 12, 2025

This app and platform are absolutely vital tools for dating safely in the modern age. Before the advent of dating apps, we met men through our family connections or friends or coworkers or church…through community connections from people we trusted. Most of the time now that isn’t the case. This is an opportunity for women to reach out to vet men we are contemplating bringing into our lives. A way to have that community of women saying, yes, he’s a good guy or no, your safety will be at risk because of experiences other women have had with him. This is our extended community in a world where that sense of community has been lost for the most part. Vital app for women’s safety in dating This app and platform are absolutely vital tools for dating safely in the modern age. Before the advent of dating apps, we met men through our family connections or friends or coworkers or church…through community connections from people we trusted. Most of the time now that isn’t the case. This is an opportunity for women to reach out to vet men we are contemplating bringing into our lives. A way to have that community of women saying, yes, he’s a good guy or no, your safety will be at risk because of experiences other women have had with him. This is our extended community in a world where that sense of community has been lost for the most part.

Suzanne1581
Jul 12, 2025

I’m proud of this page and the women who have the balls to share. Women for women’s safety I’m proud of this page and the women who have the balls to share.

rachdel97
Jul 11, 2025

So much information on here. Perfect app if you have trust issues bc it helps you retain a peace of mind. Great app So much information on here. Perfect app if you have trust issues bc it helps you retain a peace of mind.

App Details

Developer

Spill the Tea, Inc.

Platform

ios

Rating

4.8

Last Updated

9/7/2025